Posted October 01, 2019 10:11:14 A man in the UK has told how he believes he’s been subjected to psychological abuse for years after his ex allegedly tried to rape him.
William James, who was once a child actor and played a young soldier in the hit British TV show, said he was abused by his ex-wife for more than 20 years.
Key points:William James’ daughter, who is now 19, said the abuse began when he was a child, and it lasted a decade”He would sit and watch TV with her and we would be talking about how much we loved her, but it wasn’t enough,” his daughter said.
He told Newsbeat the abuse was ongoing until he turned 20.
“I’m glad to be alive, I don’t have any problems with my life now,” he said.
“But there was something that happened to me, I’m not sure why it happened to other people, but he would sit there watching TV with me and he would say things to me that I’m sure he thought were normal.”
There were times where he would go out to a restaurant and I would think to myself, I could have done something to hurt him, but I don’st know what that is.
“He’d say, ‘you know what?
You’re a pretty good actor, you’re a good kid, I think you should take a shower, and when you get there you can do whatever you want to do’.”
William James said his ex was a good actor but “she was a bit too sensitive”.
“She was a really good actor and a good writer and she knew what she wanted, she knew she had what she needed, but she was really sensitive, and she would say, well, I want you to be quiet.”
And I would just sit there and think, no, no I’m fine, I have my own space, I’ve got my own things to do.
“Mr James said the trauma of being a child in the 1970s and 1980s was a huge part of the reason he didn’t go to university and didn’t want to become a professional actor.”
At that time, I didn’t think I was good enough for this career.
I didn ‘t know that I could be a professional, I thought that I was a kid and I was not a professional,” he told Newsamp.”
It was very traumatic, it was a very traumatic period, but there was a lot of hope.
“As an adult, I found out later that there was nothing wrong with me, but at the time I was very confused.”
William James had an emotional breakdown after the abuse, he said, but now he is doing “much better” and is working as a school psychologist.
“The truth is, I feel a bit worse than I did at the beginning, I can see that now,” Mr James said.’
We’re better together’William James believes he was “taken advantage of” by his former wife.
“She would always go to places where I wasn’t supposed to go, and I felt like I was taking advantage of her.”
Now, I understand what that means, I know that she did take advantage of me, and that I should have been more aware of that and I’m now much better with myself and with my daughter,” he added.”
We’re more able to live together, we’re better, we have more stability in our lives.
“When she went to bed and left, I’d wake up and I’d think, oh my God, I wish she was home.”
Mr James said he had been “hurt and angry” by the abuse but that the “most important thing” was to “keep the peace”.
“It’s about the children, it’s about children being able to have their lives.
It’s about protecting them, protecting the families.”
So I don, for the most part, do things that make sure that it’s not happening again, and then, I try to make sure she’s safe.
“He said he would “absolutely” speak to police about his ex.”
If I feel like I’m in a position where I can get justice, I’ll do everything in my power to make that happen, because if I don I’m just not going to be able to be a parent.
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